I attended the lecture last week on “How to Talk to Girls 101,” and frankly, I walked away unsatisfied. There was some excellent advice, and I took pages of notes, but I feel that I still have much to learn before I am prepared to attempt to talk to a girl. Do you have any advice that you could share?
-Taking Notes from Memorial
Unfortunately, I was unavailable to attend to speak at the talk, and I am unable to comment on what was said there. However, as Dr. Love, I have a wealth of information from my experiences and am well-prepared to share it with you.
Do’s and Don’ts of Talking to Girls:
● Do: Ask her questions about herself! You wouldn’t believe how many dates my friends have gone on where the guy only talked about himself. It’s OK to be nervous, but it’s never OK to be rude.
● Do: Be genuinely interested in what she has to say. Ninety percent of being good at talking to girls is being able to truly listen.
● Do: Talk at a normal volume. Being as timid as a mouse isn’t cute. Neither is being over the top.
● Do: Remember the small things. It means a lot that you remember an offhand comment she made.
● Do: Try to be friends before anything else.
● Don’t: Make a big deal about it. It makes it really awkward, really fast.
● Don’t: Approach her for the first time and say that the Lord has put it on your heart that she’s your wife. (It has happened, unfortunately.)
● Don’t: Get too close. Personal space is greatly appreciated.
● Don’t: Always try to fill every silence.
● Don’t: Always ask the same questions. Please.
I promise that it isn’t as hard as you are making it out to be. Talking to girls is NOT super scary. I know a lot of people say, “just go talk to her.” That’s hard, especially if you’ve never spoken with her before. However, you already have one thing in common with a lot of girls: you both go to Grove City College. That’s as good a starting point as anything.
One last piece of advice: Be normal about it. Carrying around a sheaf of notes is not exactly inconspicuous, so I probably wouldn’t do that. You’ve got this!
Auspiciously,
Dr. Love Love M.D.
