Dear Dr. Love,
I think I’ve accidentally turned Chick-fil-A into my dating life headquarters. It started with bumping into this one guy in line for waffle fries after class then sitting down “just to eat.” Now it has become our routine. We talk for hours and it’s easily the best part of my day.
But am I reading too much into this? My friends already treat us like a couple, but I don’t want to assume and embarrass myself. Should I risk asking what we are or just keep enjoying our endless Chick-fil-A non-dates?
Signed,
Lost in the Sauce
Love is in the air and so is the smell of fried chicken.
The person I was the last time I was in a situationship would probably agree with you about the meal thing. We’d sit and talk for four hours, easily. Eventually though, it graduated to more than that.
Here’s what I’m wondering: Is that all you do? Of course, deep conversations are the way to a man’s heart … or is it a good chicken sandwich?
Lunch dates are wonderful, especially on this campus where everyone is WILDLY overscheduled. The fact that you two get so lost in each other’s company that you can sit and talk for hours is obviously a positive thing.
However, if it’s never extended to anything beyond that, is it a “more than friend” thing? For example, has he ever asked you to dinner? Bonus points if it’s off campus — a meal at Hicks doesn’t really count!
Do you go on walks? From the sound of it, I’m going to guess not. If he hasn’t made a move to bring your relationship outside of Chick-fil-A yet, he’s probably not going to.
If you’re really feeling the vibes (that I’m clearly not privy to through paper), remember to “drop the handkerchief.” Maybe he hasn’t done anything because he believes you aren’t interested in him like that. Give him hints and see what he does with it.
I’m going to be real here: Men are oblivious a lot of the time. Some guys are shy or more oblivious than others and may need a nudge. However, if you have to wonder if he’s into you because of mixed signals, he’s probably not. (It’s tough, I know).
So, if you’ve dropped a few hints and he’s not going for it, I’m going to say just enjoy the endless Chick-fil-A convos. A good friend to talk to is never something to run away from. I don’t think this requires a DTR (aka “define the relationship”) conversation. You’ve got this!
Auspiciously,
Dr. Love
Love M.D.
